Still noticing myself wanting to avoid, avoid, avoid, by choosing something more enjoyable than my main goals.
Make it S. T. O. P.!
Are you struggling with the same things?
Is it fear (possibly of the painful steps that need to take place), or just not wanting to face it and the anxiety that brings?
How can we overcome escaping like this and postponing real freedom?
Procrastination is not laziness. It actually makes us work harder to meet deadlines, so we are definitely hard workers if we are procrastinators.
Disappearing or running away is closely related and may cause us to abandon our goals completely, or derail any progress.
I think both are rooted in the fear and anxiety that we are conditioned to, and the fact that we have stopped believing in ourselves.
We don’t believe we will do what we say we will anymore . . . or we can’t handle the journey,
so we find something way more enjoyable to do to escape.
Once we nail down what it is we are so afraid or anxious about, I believe we are better able to face and overcome the habit of escaping.
But that’s not the only thing we need.
I believe that we need to have a comeback to those thoughts.
We need to already have our minds made up that when the temptation comes to do something that’s not one of our main goals, we have an answer that keeps us on track.
Sometimes the little feeling comes over me to check Instagram or Facebook to “get it out of the way” as in the video below.
But I know that feeling will come and I’m prepared with “Nope, I decided I am doing what’s best for me today!”.
Too often we give in, thinking it will only take a minute of our time.
But we don’t realize that subconsciously we are trying to evade and procrastinate. Then the time we waste snowballs!
Or we may try to run from big goals in our life, and as a result face huge consequences that set us back a long way.
What will the comeback to your avoidance be?
Make a reply you’ll use for your major pitfalls when you try to convince yourself to abandon progress. Then don’t let yourself off the hook when those ideas to get sidetracked come at you. As the video says, “outsmart yourself”!
Another piece of this is inviting a friend to help remind you of your goals when you feel weak.
I’d love to hear your story below.